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It's party time!

24/3/2017

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I am off to a huge birthday party this evening and although the host is 70, he is a musician and there will be a great many celebs of all ages in attendance. It will be wild!
With so many people dreading such events when they quit alcohol, or even deciding to put off quitting because they can't imagine life without parties (and assume they all HAVE to involve booze), I thought I would note down how I feel about tonight.
For one thing I am excited because it is a black tie do and I love dressing up smart. My wife and I have also been going to ballroom and dance lessons so hopefully there will be lots of jiving, waltzing and cha-chai'ng later on.
I know the food will be wonderful because I have already had a chance to make our selection from the menu and roast cod loin with basil cream sauce sounds divine, and as always the company of our host and his family will be stimulating, entertaining and great fun. There are also likely to be a few surprises in store.
Because I don't drink, I have been asked to propose the toast and make a speech, so although these things are a bit daunting it is a great honour and I shall give it my all.
And then there is the drive home in the early hours which I shall also enjoy on the empty roads of London, knowing I will still be up early on Saturday morning raring to go, and off for my regular morning swim.
Where is the room for booze in any of that? All it would do is wreck what will be a great evening.



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Young in the SUN!

20/3/2017

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A nice article in the Sun yesterday supporting the great group Club Soda. I am delighted I get my mugshot in there even if they only managed half my name. At least after learning yesterday that I am soon to be a senior citizen I get included in an article all about young Brits! hah hah

https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/3108321/one-in-four-young-brits-turning-teetotal-investigate-sober-revolution/

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It's official -  I'm an old git!

18/3/2017

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I have just received my latest membership card to English Heritage and in advance of my impending birthday next month they have most kindly described me as a SENIOR CITIZEN!
Now I can cope with approaching sixty, I can certainly cope with being entitled to free travel around London, and I can cope with being considered part of the older generation, but a SENIOR CITIZEN. That so speaks of Zimmer racing, damp underpants and the faint whiff of lavender I can't bear it.
So don't forget to try and come along and hear an old git talk about life after drink at Crawley on the 29th, just don't dare sit in my priority seat! 

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Absolutely Hammered!

14/3/2017

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I was listening to a conversation yesterday involving a guy who had flown his entire family and some close friends over to Jamaica for his daughter to get married somewhere exotic.
I imagined this would have been extremely expensive but also very nice to have a wedding in the Sun, with the sea, the surf, some reggae and lots of Caribbean tropical colour to add memories to the great occasion.
The guy sitting next to him asked how the wedding had gone.
‘It was brilliant’, came the reply, ‘everyone got absolutely hammered!’
But what was it like? his pal pursued.
‘The bride looked great as did all the girls’, came the response, ‘and then we all got more drunk than I can remember. The bride threw up, some people fell in the pool, and no-one remembers much of what happened after that. It was fantastic.’
And that was it, conversation over. No description of Jamaica, the people, the weather, the music, the culture, the food or anything else that they did or saw. Just the fact that everyone got hammered seemed to make it a success. You can do that in Bognor at a fraction of the price!
Was I really someone who once valued a great time based on how drunk everyone got? Sadly, I was.
 

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Have I had another TUG?

12/3/2017

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Followers of my blogs will know I went to the dentist this week after a gap of 17 years (no puns intended) and having had for all of that intervening time an attitude that said I would never go near one again! So, what changed to make me go this time?

To understand that you have to first know a little of the background to my dental reservations. In short, 45 years ago, I was run over by a car and I landed on my face smashing many of my teeth and my jaw. Much rebuilding followed including a bridge across the top of my mouth. Twenty years later I was at a dentist for a general check-up and the dentist managed to break the bridge when probing around. I didn’t realise this until infection set in and I had to have emergency surgery to relieve agonising pains in my head, it felt like someone hammering a large nail into the centre of my brain. It was then I decided never to trust a dentist again and I only went the once since and that was to have my teeth cleaned 17 years ago.

In the intervening years, I have had the occasional bouts of toothache, the odd tooth fall out and my teeth have become ‘ghastly’ as my wife describes them, but that has never bothered me and never tempted me to go and see a specialist. But this time when I had toothache it was different.

I had the same nagging doubts playing out in my mind about what might happen if I saw a dentist and the same voice in the head saying ‘just leave it, the pain will eventually go way’, which it since has. But I also had a deep feeling within that this time I would go to the dentist and I would get my mouth sorted out once and for all. That feeling was powerful enough to make me find the effort and will to locate a dentist (I obviously had lost touch with the last one I saw and we have moved home many times since then) and to phone and book an appointment. So, was that powerful feeling a TUG from deep within me?

I now recognise that deep feeling as my subconscious mind telling me in its’s own way, that being nearly sixty years of age this for me is a turning point. I have sorted my body out physically by quitting alcohol and recovering from all the issues I had as a consequence (high blood pressure, high cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, gout etc.), I have become extremely fit and healthy in the process, and I am now able to achieve far more in life because of all of that improvement. But a failing I still have is my teeth, and if for example I decided to up sticks and travel round the world with my wife for the next ten years those crappy teeth would be a potential handicap and a liability. So something inside me said that now is the time to sort them out too.

Well, as it happened I did go to the dentist. I explained to him my concerns before I sat in the chair, and everything went well and far better than expected. I didn’t feel stressed, I felt no pain during the examination, and I have quite happily booked myself in for a tooth extraction and two sessions with the hygienist. I have even decided to have an annual check-up from now on.

So what was all the fuss about? Just like when I was a drinker, I didn’t want to give up drinking despite the health and other issues it was causing, and I certainly couldn’t imagine life without booze, but I quit despite that, I had had a TUG from within that drove that change and the result was fantastic. This time I didn’t want to go to a dentist, I thought I could get away with never going again, but I did go, and it was fine and it will improve my life as a consequence.

So, was this really another TUG from within that made me go? It was certainly a subconscious feeling driving me rather my conscious thoughts deciding what I should do. So yes, I would certainly put that down to something deep inside me focusing my mind on that 60th year as the driver to make what is for me, a significant change. Something within me shut the voice in my head up with all its doubts and concerns and gave me a solid reason to make a change in my life. I would say I had another TUG.
 
You can find out more about the TUG and how it can help you quit alcohol by watching the video on my website
   http://www.idontdrink.net/videos.html


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I thought I had quit just about everything....

9/3/2017

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So, I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't gamble and I also proudly boasted 'I don't do dentists!' That is until now. After 17 years of staying away from the drill, the screaming and the terror of the dentist chair I am in so much pain I have booked myself in for tomorrow morning.

My wife reminded me that the last time I had to go to such a place (I was in dire need that time as well), I got drunk to deaden the pain and rubbed whisky on the affected area. This time I only have paracetamol to help but even if we had some spirits in the house I am pleased to report that I wouldn't be tempted. Instead I will go for a swim, a long walk, write things like this blog and do anything else I can think of to keep my mind occupied until 8.30 tomorrow, when I will be in THE CHAIR.

I have good reason to be nervous as being run down by a car many years ago has left me with what my wife kindly describes as 'ghastly teeth' together with a lot of bridgework, bits of metal, and other nightmares for the dental surgeon to discover and probe about. Please wish me luck, and no, I certainly won't be watching Marathon Man on dvd tonight!
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Counting down or counting out?

1/3/2017

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If you tried Dry January or February and succeeded, well done. At the same time, just reading the posts on some of the relevant blogs it is clear that many people coped with a 'Dry' month purely on the basis they would be able to get 'hammered' when it was all over. That is the whole problem with trying to moderate your drinking, the thought of that next drink never escapes you. Dry Forever is so much easier because of that! Why not make that your commitment from now on?

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