An autumn walk through our lovely local park this afternoon reminded me of when I was a small boy, and how after school I would play in the park with my mates until tea-time and then go home to a warm house, some hot crumpet and soup, and then a nice bath and a game with my brothers or read a book until bed-time. I never needed alcohol back then and I doubt for one moment you ever needed alcohol as a kid either.

My walk amidst all the beautiful trees also reminded me of the cottage I lived in until fairly recently and the woodland that surrounded our garden. I used to love sitting under the trees and listening to the sounds of nature, but somehow felt it necessary to have a bottle of wine or a flagon of cider with me. I would get steadily drunk to the point I wouldn't bother to eat, and then end up feeling too sloshed to do anything, only to discover that it was only eight o' clock and I had the whole night ahead of me, too drunk to achieve anything but to fall asleep listening to the radio as I didn't have a TV. 

Now I am free of the alcohol trap I can enjoy the woodland walks, still sit under the trees if I want to contemplate life, but then return home sober, revitalised and ready to achieve something useful before bed-time.

If you are trying sober October I wish you luck. Make time to do things you wouldn't normally do when you are drinking. Go for a long walk if you can and think how you didn't need alcohol when you were a child and of all the enjoyable things you used to get up to back then. What makes you think you need alcohol now? You don't of course. It is just a bad habit you picked up and that you can easily break if you apply yourself. 

It was a shame to read about Ben Affleck in the news this morning. I don't know who he is not having seen any of his movies, but to read that anyone is suffering due to alcoholism is always something I tend to spot and my hopes for a full recovery go out to him.

But reading these sort of news articles must make many people looking to quit alcohol despair. They can read that someone spending vast sums on rehab is unable to quit, even after having managed it before, so how can they possibly expect to be able to stay off booze forever themselves if someone like Ben can't.

The article then describes what Ben has as an illness and is that not perhaps where the problem lies, and why he has had to go back to rehab so many times?

Readers of my blogs will know that I follow a hard line and that I believe quitting alcohol has to be a 'forever' decision if you are to truly escape alcohol.

I never discussed my drink problem with an 'expert', but I know that if I had have done, and had been told I had an illness or that what I had was hereditary it would have given me the excuse I would have been craving to either not quit or to forgive myself if I was unable to stay off the booze. Coming home pissed after a year of not drinking I would have felt able to say 'oh dear, my illness is back, I will have to start again' or at least give myself the comfort that my drinking was not my fault and not something I could be blamed for.

My drinking was my fault, no-one else's. Yes, I was brought up in a world of drinking and encouraged to drink from an early age, and I still work in an environment where drinking is the norm, but that is why I got into the drinking habit which eventually became all consuming. My being an alcoholic was not an illness I caught, and because I didn't fall into that 'not my fault' trap is why I and so many others with that same mindset as me have found it so much easier to quit.

What Ben has is a habit. He needs to recognise that, accept he has to quit forever, and address the issues and circumstances that are stopping him break that habit. If he continues to be told he is ill and needs constant support he will never be able to truly escape the alcohol trap. I wish him well.

This is blunt advice, so please don’t take offence.

You need a strategy – without that you will fail

You need to want to quit alcohol – that might take some thinking about but hopefully you are already at that stage and are fed up with carrying on as you are. If you know you want to quit, then you are already nearly there!

You do have the strength of will because we all do. You have quit things before whether this be a bad habit, a bad relationship; you have got over the grief of losing someone or a broken relationship; and you might also have achieved something you thought you were too scared or unable to do e.g. learn to swim, learn to drive, pass an exam, get that job. There are countless examples of things you have been able to do and do well. Quitting alcohol is no different. If you have given up smoking successfully or if you know someone who has, then this is far far easier than that.

You need to set a date and that should be now or tomorrow morning. There is absolutely no point in putting it off as doubts will creep in. Waiting until after the next wedding or party listed in your diary ensures failure. Be strong and say now – today!

You must determine to quit alcohol forever. Nothing else guarantees success. So get over it. Say you are going to quit now and forever, and just do it.

Yours strategy should include writing down the one big reason you want to lose alcohol from your life. This must be some big reason that you can think about if you feel weak or are tempted by others to break your resolve. It might be for the sake of your partner, your children, your health, your life even. Write it down. Keep that reason with you and take strength from it. Let it constantly remind you.

It helps to also write down all the little reasons for quitting as well, even just so you can refer back and see how much you have achieved at various milestones.

You have to believe life without alcohol is going to be better, because it is a million times better. You will not miss alcohol. You might think about drink because it has become a massive habit, but you really will not miss it at all after a very short while.

You need a success star chart or a calendar to record your success every day and to be proud of the fantastic progress you are achieving. Use the spreadsheet on my website as an example to record how much you are saving as well. Add your weight now and weigh yourself weekly. You will lose loads of weight unless you replace the sugar in alcohol with sugar in fizzy drinks. Drink water instead. It is not called Adam’s ale for no reason. That is all early man and woman had available and they coped without booze!

You are not alone. Millions of others have been able to quit and are so amazingly delighted with the fact they would never ever go back to drinking. Countless millions more people in the World don’t take alcohol for religious reasons and they cope – and so can you!

You will be able to cope with so much more in your life without booze. All alcohol does is hide the pain, the stress, the grief, the burden or whatever ails you. The problem doesn’t go away, but without drink you will be able to resolve all your issues with a clear head, a fresh mind and clear good sense. You don’t need an escape and alcohol isn’t a solution, it just compounds the problem.

You need a strategy that will keep you busy for the next few weeks doing things with all that time you will have not drinking and to give you something else to think about. Hopefully this can include exercise if you are able, as you will be further helping your body renew itself after years of alcohol mis-use and ruination. Join a group to learn something new or take up a new hobby. The enjoyment from a walk in the park or country gives your brain the same lift that it gets from alcohol but with zero side effects.

Go for a drive if you feel tense, you wouldn’t be able to do that if you had been drinking – or at least not legally. That knowledge will help you realise you are doing things that you couldn’t do as a drinker.
Avoid friends and situations that might tempt you to drink if that concerns you. Some friends you might have to say goodbye to, at least for a while.

Share what you are doing to create yourself a fan club. Not only will this give you support but it will act as a blocker to thinking you might fail. You don’t want to let others down.

Believe in yourself. You are a strong person. Alcohol is no more than a habit despite what you might have read or have been told. Every habit can be got rid of or replaced with another habit. Your new habit will be not drinking, and you will be so proud of yourself you won’t believe the new you!

You CAN do this, but remember - it has to be forever. If that sounds too difficult then you don’t really want to quit at all and are only kidding yourself and playing with the idea. You will be stuck in a land of drink induced misery forever with only yourself to blame. How crap is that! So, DO IT and good luck! You can discover more free advice and videos at my website www.idontdrink.net
 
 

Gin was brought to mind by my seeing this famous Hogarth print at the Tate gallery last week. I recall seeing that same print many times in my youth in various books or periodicals and it always gave me a guilty feeling that I was drinking something evil. I have never seen any other spirit associated in this way and that is perhaps why.
I used to love gin and tonic. I loved the smoky blue colour of the drink, the refreshing smell and the exquisite taste. I especially liked to have a gin and tonic in hand when travelling by plane which I used to do weekly on business trips to Ireland.  Even writing this paragraph I can taste the drink in my mind, but thankfully that doesn’t encourage me to actually want one, I am well past any such temptation.

As gin was the only spirit I regularly drank I was aware how quickly it could affect me and induce a drowsy and laid-back state. I also knew I had to try and limit the amount I was consuming or else I would get drunk too quickly, but I found this too hard to do, and so always ended up plastered. Things got especially bad if I mixed gin with wine and other drinks over the course of the lunchtime or evening.

I think that gin being called ‘mother’s ruin’ and the Hogarth print perhaps induced my feelings of guilt back then. I know for a fact that whenever I saw this print I would only give it a cursory glance, probably because I was too guilt wracked to want to explore the message the print was sending out, that the imbibing of cheap spirits leads to madness, disease, wantonness and disaster. It is actually a horrible print to really study with children being abused or killed, people being force fed the spirit, people having gone blind, dying and all other sorts of horrors envisaged through gin.
Now that gin seems to back in fashion as ‘the’ drink. What do you see in this print, and would it make you feel guilty if you were viewing it with a g&t in hand?

I have recently been reading an interesting book about AI, and my job will shortly involve employing some advanced AI techniques to manipulate data and information to create decision support ‘wisdom’.

The book provides an interesting history of the subject and I had no idea that a charming and brilliant lady with the unlikely name of Ada Lovelace invented the concept as far back as the 1840’s.

The book also goes on to state that the concept was early applied to try and understand alcoholism by looking at and modelling neural pathways and trying to mimic how the brain works.

I am not sure what the results of this research were but what I do know is that you do not need Artificial Intelligence to tell you that drinking alcohol is for losers.
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The fact that this is a statement that would have angered me five years ago is once again testament to the change in attitude that occurs once you have quit for a period with the forever mind-set. My life is so full and so positive now, despite what comes my way, that I would never go back to that drinking hell that I once thought of as heaven. There is nothing artificial about the negative impact alcohol has on your life.

Friday night my wife and I went to see The Godfather at the BFI cinema on the Southbank. It was the first time she had seen the film and the first time for me on the big screen. No wonder it is rated as one of the best films of all time. The BFI is one of the only cinemas you go to where the audience truly appreciate film and so generally behave whilst the film is showing, and even applaud at the end. Imagine my disappointment therefore, when just minutes before it started a crowd of rowdy drunken blokes arrived and sat next to me.
Throughout the whole film they talked and giggled, they continuously plied themselves with wine and the one next to me was even texting, the light from his phone particularly annoying me. They also took it in turns to get up and go for a pee during the showing which must have annoyed the people behind them as well.
I would have complained, but to talk to the theatre staff I would have had to make lots of people move to let me out and I thought this would be rude, and as there were seven of the drunks, all of whom were younger and bigger than me I thought it best not to tackle them myself. I did smile however when the drunk next to me dropped his phone and had to wait until the cinema emptied at the end of the film before he could retrieve it.
What most surprised me however was the foul smell of the wine. I used to love wine of course and would happily drink gallons, but the stench wafting across made me fell quite sick, and that is a measure of how far I have come since my own drunken days.
It's a shame drunks are allowed in somewhere like the BFI where film is supposed to be taken seriously. I would love to have had a Marlon Brando style character to have a sly word with, and perhaps have the offenders quietly removed...

Having spent the day walking around my local town of Bromley today, I was then horrified to read in the local paper about the number of Bromley people having to have amputations due to diabetes. From what I understand most of the cases of type 2 diabetes are ultimately caused from people being overweight, losing feeling in their feet or legs and then getting an infection which leads to the toe, foot or lower leg having to be amputated. This must be a terrifying and life-changing thing for anyone to experience.
Many of you will know that I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes before I stopped drinking. When I did quit I lost a huge amount of weight which has never come back regardless of what I now eat, and it shocked me just how much sugar is hidden in alcohol. Something you never seem to consider when necking back wine, beer or spirits.
I am lucky and my diabetes completely went away due to my change of lifestyle.
If you drink too much and are overweight I suggest you have a diabetes check, apparently huge numbers of people have the disease but are completely unaware of it - mine was only spotted as I was having blood tests for gout and other issues all drink related ( and since also cured completely).
Don't risk becoming a victim to something you can cure by quitting alcohol and losing weight. Nothing is worth committing yourself to a life of misery, especially not that next drink.