I feel sorry for this chap. I too work in the same City insurance environment where lunchtime drinking is still considered the norm and drinking to excess with your business colleagues can be expected. But it doesn’t have to be.
I was nearly always to be found drinking at lunchtime and into the afternoon, and I used to convince myself this is what I needed to do. But the fact is, the people who really want to achieve are back at their desks doing deals rather than ‘talking business’ over yet more booze. In fact, if you listen to most of the conversations being held in afternoon bars and pubs you will hear nothing but drivel, sport and waffle.
I still have lunchtime meetings with people who might have a beer or a glass of wine. It doesn’t bother me, and it doesn’t bother them that I Don’t Drink. What I deliberately do however, is avoid the people who I know will drink to excess and end up achieving nothing of value. In other words, I avoid people like I used to be.
If this man quits alcohol and gets back on his feet he will look back in a few month’s time and rue the day he ever started drinking, realising how much it has damaged his life and for absolutely zero benefit. Pretending you need to drink as part of your job is simply that – a pretence, and an awful habit you get in to if you allow the peer pressure of the City to get to you.
Alcohol affects your brain and your thinking. It makes you feel free to do things you wouldn’t otherwise dream of doing, it numbs your reactions and it takes away all common sense. That is why you can’t drink and drive and why no-one would leave a drunk in charge of a baby.
I hope this chap seeks help, and if I see him in Lime Street I will give him a copy of my book. I have lost and messed up so many business opportunities in my life because of drink I know what he will be going through. I am so grateful I saw the light and that I will never have to suffer all that distress and misery again, and all because of some bloody fermented grape juice that was only destroying my health anyway.
If you are trying to quit alcohol. Make a written note of all those opportunities you have lost or messed you because of drink. There will be lots. Why risk doing the same again?